
I hope you find my mental health blogs & recordings helpful on your journey!
Grounding Exercise
Here is an audio recording taking you through a grounding/dropping anchor exercise. Find a quiet place you can do this 9 minute experiential practice of just noticing. Think of this as an experiment. There is no right way or wrong way to do this. It’s all about noticing the present moment.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: Beauty in Chaos
My next-door neighbor was having a new driveway installed, and as I walked by and the workers apologized for the noise. One of them said, "It’s ugly now, but it will be beautiful later." I smiled and replied, "That’s life—it’s a good reminder." We both laughed.
It’s so important to recognize that life can be messy and, at times, not so pretty—especially when we’re in the midst of trying to make changes or grow. We often crave quick fixes: "Tell me what I need to do, give me something concrete to remove the conflict or pain. Please, give me solutions to get rid of this anxiety!" But sometimes, progress comes in small, subtle ways—tiny shifts that may seem insignificant at first, like noticing your internal thoughts and feelings, or paying attention to how you respond—or don’t respond—to internal stimuli in your body, mind, or partner.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: Strategies for Tough Talks
At Couples Counseling Worcester MA I support couples in having difficult discussions effectively. Having tough conversations with your partner can be challenging, especially when emotions are running high. It's easy to feel the urge to jump into problem-solving, compromise, or even forcing your perspective onto your partner in hopes that they will see things your way in an attempt to quickly resolve the issue. However, before jumping ahead to solutions, it's important to first set the stage for a productive conversation.
Here are some key steps to consider when approaching a difficult conversation with your partner.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: Finding Hope in Tough Times
Oftentimes, hopelessness stems from feeling like there’s nothing you can do to change things.
Couples Counseling Worcester MA inspires hope for individuals and couples
I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t matter how small the act is or if it’s just for one person—the ripple effect is real.
Even in couples therapy at Couples Counseling Worcester MA, I talk to my clients about them focusing on how they want to show up in their relationships. We cannot change the other person. The more we put effort into changing other peoples’ perspectives, behavior, thoughts, and emotions, the more people get defensive, and either fight back or stop engaging altogether. One person in the system can slowly over time, change the larger system. This is true for families, this is true in couples, and this is true in our communities.
What kind of impact do you want to have on the world?
The small things matter and can have a lasting, positive impact.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: 7 Tips for More Presence
I don’t know about you, but it feels like we're all so plugged in these days, and everything is synced to our phones.
If we want to listen to music, we reach for our phones. If we're on vacation and want to take a picture, we grab our phones. How many times have you been in a conversation with a friend, engaging in a friendly debate, only for one of you to grab your phone to settle the argument? Or when you want to cook or bake something, the recipe is right there at your fingertips.
The issue is that while we use this amazing technology, we often get sucked into distractions we didn’t intend to explore.
I’ve been guilty of opening my phone to play a favorite song, only to get sidetracked by a text, an email, or a social media post, and before I know it, I’ve fallen down a dark winding rabbit hole. Then, I completely forget what I originally intended to do.
Here are 7 tips for being more intentional with your phone use:

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: Boost Your Morning Mood
It’s not always easy to wake up in the morning. I don’t know about you, but I find myself excited and rearing to go on the weekends because I am excited about projects I want to do like planting my garden or seeing friends I haven’t seen in a while.
Having a morning routine that you feel good about can help improve your relationships.
If you're feeling less rushed and stressed, it can have a positive impact not just on you, but also on your partner and kids. I know that whatever mood I'm in can rub off on others, and vice versa. Starting the morning with positive interactions with yourself and your partner can create a positive ripple effect throughout the day.
But how do you create a morning routine that feels good on days when you’re not excited or you’re heading to work, just like any other day?
Here are some ideas to get you jump started in the morning.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: Manage Your Inner Dialogue
Have you ever noticed a constant commentary in your head?
Have you found yourself trying to sleep while the voice in your mind just won’t quiet down?
Don’t worry—you’re not going crazy! This happens to almost everyone. It's a normal part of how our brains work: thinking, assessing, planning, figuring things out, and judging. Learn more on how to deal with overthinking, anxiety, and worry.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA; How to Show Up Fully for Your Partner: Start with Yourself
I often find myself so busy—focused on work, racing around to attend to my children’s needs, showing up emotionally, mentally, and physically for my partner and my family. I'm constantly distracted, pulled into the world of my phone, binge-watching shows, making dinner, ensuring everyone has clean clothes, and remembering to take out the trash on Fridays. Oh, and wait—did I put on deodorant and brush my teeth today? Yikes!
With all of the stress and competing demands we are all facing, it can be really hard to realize how we are coming off to the people around us.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: What Parenting is Teaching Me About Navigating Conflicts with My Partner
I recently started attending a parenting group with my partner, hoping to find better ways to support our child through intense emotions and challenging behaviors. What I didn’t expect was this “aha!” moment: the strategies we’re learning don’t just apply to parenting—they’re game-changers for all types of relationships. I am excited to share this knowledge with clients I see for couples counseling in Worcester MA and with all of you.

Self-Compassion: A Path to Healthier Relationships through Couples Counseling Worcester MA
Couples Counseling Worcester MA

Couples Counseling Worcester MA; Fighting for Connection: How Vulnerability Can Heal Relationship Conflicts
Why do we fight in relationships? We fight to be heard. We fight to be seen. We fight to be understood and to feel valued. We fight because we want to feel validated by our partner. We fight because we want to change our partner’s mind. We fight to win. We fight to protect our vulnerabilities. We fight and argue to connect and feel close, although it rarely turns out that way in the end.
It is our ego revving up and exerting its dominance, needing to be right. The ego wants to protect itself when it feels threatened. Our ego does not like to feel out of control or vulnerable, nor does it want our identity or self-worth to feel threatened. So, if we are not mindful and aware, our ego tends to strike back.

The Top 5 Truths about Couples Counseling Worcester MA

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: Being Intentional in Relationships
One of the topics I help couples explore in Couples Counseling Worcester MA, is being intentional in their relationship with their partner.
We enter romantic relationships putting our best foot forward. We tend to show our best selves—our patient side, light and breezy side, the “that doesn’t bother me” side. However, as we get more comfortable in our relationships, specifically with our partners, the side of us that is hyper-intentional, what my husband calls “meeting someone’s agent,” relaxes, and other parts of our personality arise.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA Provides Tips on How to Take An Effective Mental Health Day
We have all taken days off of work or school when we are physically sick. Mental health is also an important aspect of our overall health and it cannot be ignored. A mental health day is not a “lets catch up on work” day or a “I have all these projects I never get done” day. A mental health day is a day where you assess what you need in order to nurture and give back to yourself.

FAQs about Couples Counseling Worcester MA, Individual Therapy, Psychotherapy, and Coaching
Choosing a counselor can feel like a big deal, and sometimes it's hard to know where to start or what questions to ask. It can be overwhelming, but that's totally normal. In fact, it's so common that I decided to write a blog to help guide you through the process.
You don’t have to be in crisis or experiencing a mental health episode to talk with someone about your thoughts, feelings, or relationships. Everyone can benefit from having someone to listen and support them at some point. Therapy offers a unique relationship where you can talk without worrying about the therapist bringing up their own issues or passing judgment like a well-meaning friend or family member might.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: Time to Connect in a Fast-Paced World
Being in a relationship can be amazing, especially when it's fresh and new. However, it turns out that relationships require a lot of work too. In the beginning stages of dating, there's this spark, this excitement. We find ourselves wanting to spend all our time with this new person, curious about every aspect of them. But over time, as we become more familiar and exposed to each other, that initial excitement naturally decreases. We may then find ourselves wondering if we've lost attraction to our partners or fallen out of love with them, and vice versa.
Our culture perpetuates this fantasy of true love, of everlasting passion and electricity, along with the expectation that our partner should fulfill every role we need them to: best friend, lover, co-parent, weekend adventurer, and more. However, this initial electricity inevitably fades. It's unrealistic to expect such intensity to be sustained forever. Instead, what often happens is that lust and excitement soften into emotional and spiritual intimacy—a real understanding and connection with someone.
You want more connection with Couples Counseling Worcester MA.

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: What is meditation?

Couples Counseling Worcester MA: What Our Brains Like To Do
Our brains have evolved to problem-solve, think, and assist in tasks like hunting and finding safe places to live or building shelter, and assess danger—essentially, to ensure our survival.
In our minds, all thoughts are equal; our mind can't distinguish the validity of one from another.
Thoughts continually come and go, creating a background chatter. At times, we might become "hooked" by our thoughts, feelings, sensations, and memories, resulting in feeling an increase in destress and/or feeling stuck. This is a common experience for everyone and can divert us from what we truly value, the aspects that give richness and meaning to our lives.

Couples Counseling in Worcester MA: The Vulnerability Cycle
The Vulnerability Cycle is a concept that describes the emotional dynamics and patterns of interaction that develop between two people in any kind of relationship. These coping patterns often stem from early experiences in a person’s family of origin and tend to show up in their current relationships. The way these two people respond to each other’s vulnerabilities and insecurities can often perpetuate conflict and distance. Understanding and addressing the vulnerability cycle is a key aspect of couples therapy, as it helps promote healthier communication and connection.